In December 2020, my husband was arrested for a crime he didn’t commit.
That fateful evening began a long and winding road of a nightmare that we’ll live with forever. When something unspeakable happens like this, denial is one of the first things you cling to. Since we knew he was innocent, we had faith the system would do its job and this would all be over before we knew it.
Nothing in the legal system is ever easy, and this case was no different.
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The detectives investigating the alleged crime used dirty tactics to convince my husband he should simply confess and assured him doing so would significantly reduce any potential sentence and possibly get him probation only, rather than the much longer time he was facing if convicted by a jury.
He was repeatedly denied access to a lawyer during his interview and was never read his rights.
By April 2021, after learning the confession would stand, our attorney sat us down and gave us the options. The attorney recommended a plea bargain and knowing his odds of being found guilty at trial were high; we agreed.
My husband and I are polyamorous. We’ve dated another woman for the last year, together, and have discussed opening our relationship even further in the future. When faced with the potential of him being gone for a number of years, this was a conversation we needed to have sooner rather than later.
Would I continue dating our girlfriend while he was gone? Would I date other people? Although this conversation wasn’t an easy one to have, considering the circumstances - it’s one we knew was vital to our relationship.