From the moment of conception through to birth, pregnancy can be wonderful and terrifying at the same time.
For the partner who watches their loved one’s body grow and change while trying to do and say all the right things, it can be a hard balance to strike.
Mamamia talks to four partners about how they handled pregnancy and birth from their important support-act perspective.
David, father to Charlie (6) and Emika (2).
David had just graduated from university when wife Jess surprised him with the ‘gift’ of a positive pregnancy stick.
“I was ecstatic! We had been trying to conceive so we were thrilled to discover we were going to be parents for the first time.
“I watched in awe as Jess’ body changed and I loved feeling the baby moving around in her tummy. I felt envious that she got to have that experience.”
The pregnancy was not the easiest for Jess who suffered from morning sickness and towards the end, the pregnancy rash PUPPPs (Pruritic Urticarial Papules and Plaques of Pregnancy).
“By that stage, I felt quite anxious and as it was our first time, I wasn’t sure what to expect with the birth.”
Charlie was born in 2012 and David’s feelings for his son were never in doubt.
“As soon as I saw him I fell in love! I have never loved a bloke more and thinking about it now still makes me very emotional.”
His reaction at the gender reveal party for their second pregnancy took him by surprise.
“When we cut the cake to reveal pink for a girl, I was absolutely stoked. I had this sense of completeness for our family.”
After going through the private hospital system with Charlie, Jess and David decided on a home birth for baby Emika.
“Jess was a warrior and while my anxiety levels were higher with her giving birth at home in a pool, it was a really beautiful and positive experience.”