They say it takes two to tango, but in a relationship of a planner and a non-planner, who leads the dance?
If you have ever sent a friend, partner, or family member an outlook invite for a personal event, you’re one.
If you consider Christmas in July a good time to buy Christmas presents (for December), you’re one, too.
And if you have more than five spreadsheets going at once? You’re DEFINITELY one.
Planners. We make the world go around. Without planners, there would be no condiments at an outdoor BBQ, no reminder of your Nanna’s birthday, and certainly no extra rolls of toilet paper under the sink. We are the select few, born into this world with a mild case of OCD and an obsession with turning appliances off at the wall.
In a few weeks time, I am heading overseas with my partner for a few weeks on a work (him) meets leisure (me) type of trip, and nothing is planned. NOTHING. At my partner’s request, we’re just going to like, you know, BOOK THINGS AS WE GO. After weeks and weeks of struggling, I have finally given in and realised there is nothing I can do, and that I must move into the final stage of grieving: acceptance.
So, in light of my recent efforts in suppressing the Jumanji drums inside my head every time my spreadsheet sits unpopulated, here are my top tips for my fellow planners out there on How To Survive Dating A Non-Planner.
Top Comments
I'm sort of a planner- not as fanatical as in the article, but I do like to be organised. But I married into a family of non planners, and it drives me nuts! We usually get together for birthdays, but most times we only find out by text the night before that they've planned something. We have a birthday coming up this week, I have no idea if we're doing anything. I'm used to a family who organises things at least two weeks prior, you would think after 15 years I'd be used to it!