Irritability, lack of concentration, moodiness. Darting eyes and a sore scrolling thumb. Sound familiar?
Your partner is a phone addict and here is our five step program to get them off the Apple juice.
Restore sanity; Institute a ‘no-phone zone’.
It’s time to set some boundaries. Maybe it’s by physical location; no phone in the bedroom. Or by time-frame; no phones after 8pm.
It could also be with actions; when they check their phone mid-conversation, your chat ends until they’re ready to invest 100% into what’s happening in front of them.
This will prevent the following:
“Wait, wait, wait… I’m just checking my phone while having a half-arsed conversation with you ’cause I am Gen Y and can totally do two things at once.”
Not cool. Don’t buy it.
Make a moral inventory; Keep your business private.
Using social media as a venting platform after an argument is both self-serving and unhelpful.
Passive-aggressive, not-so-subtly-directed-at-you status updates don’t solve anything. Instead, they trivialise what is (more often than not) a very valid and important
argument discussion between partners. They make you feel terrible. And your partner ends up looking like a fool when their on-line community sees they’re still dating the passive-aggressive-status-update-inducing girlfriend.
It’s also, quite simply, rude. Your business has nothing to do with anyone else’s social feed.
Take a personal inventory; Thumbs aren’t the only way of communicating.
What happened to the phone call? Sure, chatting through text message, Messenger, G-Chat and Whatsapp can be great for keeping in touch throughout the day, but sometimes you’d like to hear your partner’s laugh, rather than imagine it through a “LOL” or “aha”. Phones have a sneaky way of removing the intimacy from any relationship, while at the same time promising to enhance the connection.