Navigating your current partner’s relationship with their ex is always going to be murky water.
But one woman on Reddit is experiencing this dilemma with a heightened sense of drama, writing on the forum that her boyfriend is desperate to go to his ex-girlfriend’s wedding… alone.
The user, weddingwtf, (creative name, too) wrote that she had been with her boyfriend for the last three years, and before that, he was with his ex-girlfriend for two years.
“She was his first love and I think he was (and still is) a little bit obsessed with her. They only broke up because his family moved to the other side of the country, so I guess they never had any real closure,” she wrote.
“He still considers her his best friend, although they don’t talk much any more. When we first started dating, I knew he was still hung up on this girl, but she didn’t want to be with him. It seemed like he was putting her on a pedestal and measuring all other girlfriends against that standard.
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“It made me a little jealous, but we weren’t that serious and she was 3,000 miles away, so I figured it was a non-issue. Over time our relationship got more serious, we fell in love, and he mentioned her less and less. Now they only talk maybe twice a month at most, and only by Facebook message,” she wrote.
Despite recognising their communication had slowed and her influence less pronounced, the woman wrote that she had a renewed sense of worry when the wedding invitation arrived. It was addressed to her boyfriend, with no plus-one welcome.
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Why don't you tell him you will fly with him to the city where the wedding is, and spent some time together with the bride, because if she is such a special person in his life then you should get to know her. And he can go to the wedding by himself or maybe by getting to know you she might extended invitation to you as well (btw does she know he is in relationship withyou? Sound like not, otherwise why would she only invite him?)
If he says NO to idea of you going, then you should rethink where do you stand in this relationship. Good luck
It sounds like you come second..your the second choice.if I were you I'd let him go and be on your way moving out..he clearly doesn't care as long as he's happy.you are worth more than being someone's second choice.