It will get easier, they said. They lied.
Having little kids seemed like the toughest part of my mothering journey, but it was during their adolescence I had to step up in ways I never imagined.
I wonder why we don’t talk about this part of parenting with the same intense focus as the early days? Is it because the days of idealising motherhood are so far in the past? Because you can’t take a teenager to the shops and take a photograph of them lying wrapped in a sheet next to a bunch of pumpkins?
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I remember holding my toddler against the side of the car with my knee while I buckled my newborn into his capsule, praising my six-year-old for clipping herself into her booster seat.
As a 36-year-old Warrior in the Woolworths carpark I imagined a time when my kids weren’t constantly at risk of being mowed down in the traffic, or being lost in a shopping centre or abducted from a swimming pool toilet.
I imagined the freedom as a mother of older children, when in the absence of this constant physical vigilance that I would have all this time to myself.