When Australian blogger Constance Hall improvised a nappy change on the grass – like many mothers have had to do, she was shamed by a stranger.
Hall went “very far away” from the ill-equipped restaurant she was dinning in, to find a patch of grass.
“A women approached me and said, ‘I saw you changing your daughter’s nappy, could you please use the change table next time’,” Hall wrote on Instagram.
I had breakfast with a friend and of course Snow shat. ???? I went to the bathroom and there was no change table. ???? No dramas the restaurant was in a park, I went very far away, put her on the grass and changed her bum. ???? No big deal. ???? 30 minutes later a women approached me and said, “I saw you changing your daughters nappy, could you please use the change table next time” ???? I said “there wasn’t one” ???? She said “there is, it’s in the disabled toilet and that’s around the other corner” ???? I said “cool, she’s probably not due for another shit for about 6 hours but I will act accordingly” I felt like a loser. The world went on. ???? The following weekend we were at the park, all of us. Rumi shat.. I told Bill that it was his turn, he put Rumi on the grass and changed his bum. ???? A group of women walked passed, one said.. “Aww good dad!!! That’s what we like to see, get in there” ???? Bill felt like a legend. The world went on. ???? I didn’t think much of it because I am used to it. I am used to being scrutinised for jobs that my husband is praised for. I am used to picking the kids up from school to judgmental looks about being late, while Bill is used to a red fucking carpet and a 12 piece band praising him for his heroic appearance at school pick up. ???? That’s the way we as a society are, we place so much pressure on women to be perfect and selfless while putting low parenting expectations on men. ???? I am not saying quit the praise. I love seeing Bill get praised for the things he does for our kids. He is a good dad, why not celebrate him. But let’s praise each other too, let’s see a women talking on the phone while pushing her pram and think ‘wow, she chose not to stay at home bidding on eBay smashing straight vodka. She chose to come to the park and be a magnificent mum’ ???? Celebrations, high fives or just a complaint for all Queens today. Because Queening deserves a standing ovation. ???? Kindness puts a red carpet under every shitty arse and a 12 piece band at every late school drop off. ???? You just can’t see it ????
The 32-year-old blogger explained to the woman that there weren’t any facilities at the restaurant, but the stranger insisted there was a nearby disabled toilet “around the corner”.
The following weekend Hall was with her family at the park.
“Rumi shat…I told Bill that it was his turn, he put Rumi on the grass and changed his bum,” she said.
“A group of women walked passed, one said: ‘Aww good dad!!! That’s what we like to see, get in there’.”