The longer you’re single, the more the dating pool feels like a game of musical chairs.

In the first round you’re surrounded by options and there’s a place for everyone. But, as time goes by, desperate singles are fighting it out to claim a spot in the relationship finals.

Chairs consistently disappear from the circle and the chances of being left without a place seem more likely.

Osher Günsberg and clinical psychologist Leanne Hall.

“After I got divorced and started dating again I had to slap myself around the face because I would sit with every woman and be going ‘are you going to be my next ex-wife? Are you going to be the mother of my children?’ I would meet a Tinder date going ‘Am I going to end up marrying you?’”

he’s just being completely indiscriminate and being the opposite of being fussy…I reckon she’s casting the net a little bit too wide.”

So how does she change herself? What’s the solution for dealing with the pressure of first date anxiety?