“There are no perfect mums out there and there are no perfect employees either.”
Dear Working Mums,
I feel compelled to write you this letter to tell you a few things that I don’t think that you hear often enough.
I know what it is like to be so busy that your head is spinning. When you are trying to find the balance between being the perfect mum and the amazing business woman that you always dreamed you could be. I know that it is likely to be a long time since you stopped and looked at what an amazing job you are doing.
That is what I urge you to do now. Stop. Grab a cup of coffee or a glass of wine and take a few minutes to read the points below and celebrate all that you do achieve.
1. You are not damaging your children by being a working mum.
Yes, that is right. You are not. Instead you are providing them with a positive role model for the future. Current research shows that children from families where both parents work achieve better grades at school and are more likely to continue on into further education than those who don’t.
2. You do not have to be perfect.
In fact there is no such thing. There are no perfect mums out there and there are no perfect employees either.
But you don’t even have to try to be close to perfect. You just have to be good enough.
Try to remember the Pareto Principle which states that 20% of the effort delivers 80% of the results. Think of all the time and effort instantly freed up if 80% is good enough.
3. There is no right way to do things.
Work. Don’t work. Work part time. Day Care. Nanny. Pre-School. After school care. Family support. Work from home. Shift work. Work travel.
No one of these options or combination is the right way. In fact what works for one family can be a disaster for another.
If what you are doing works for you, then you have already found your “right-way”.
4. Don’t listen to other people.
A taxi driver home from the airport once asked me if I ever considered that one day I would look back and regret my decision to work when my kids went off the rails because they needed a mother 100% of the time. I didn’t listen to him. As with the point above, I assume his family reached the decision that his wife would stay at home and bring up the children.
Nobody knows what your core values are, nor what works for your family. It’s not worth an argument or even taking on their judgement.