Weddings are wonderful.
They bring people together and remind us that love is lovely. From near and far, friends and family flood to churches, chapels and gardens to
score free champagne watch two people commit to one another for the rest of their lives.
It’s a beautiful thing to be a part of, unless, of course, you aren’t invited. In which case, it kind of sucks.
Mumsnet user GentlybytheStream knows the pain all too well.
“I got a text today from my brother to say he got married last Tuesday with a nice photo of their wedding,” the woman wrote on the parenting website this week.
“We are not close – but I thought he might have at least a small family wedding. I’m in turmoil as I know it’s their right to get married however they want – and I really do mean that – but I’m so sad not to have a positive family event,” she wrote.
“We’ve had a few sadnesses over the last few years and when he got engaged it was a bright spot. I don’t have much family and feel sad that the few of us there are will not have experienced a happy family event. I know I am being awful but I feel so sad.
She went on:
“My father is very ill – I thought he was a goner in January – and obviously I put more importance on the idea of a family event than I should. I don’t mean for the sake of a big wedding – just something we could enjoy and I could say to my kids ‘look mummy has a family too – this is where she comes from. And sometimes nice things happen to her family.’
“Just so sad tonight. I mean – being told by text. But at the same time they had no family there at all so it’s not personal. My parents are fine with it so I’ve no excuse to feel sad which makes it worse.”