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Is it normal that... My husband has never seen me naked?

My husband has never seen me without clothes and I don’t want him to see me without clothes, ever. Do I need help?

My husband has never seen me naked. He’s probably caught glimpses here and there but I’ve never been totally naked in front of him for any length of time.

At first it was because I was too uncomfortable to be totally in the buff in front of him because I have stretch marks on my arms and thighs from when I lost a lot of weight when I was in my late 20s.

We've been together for six years, four of them married. We only make love in the dark and whenever I get dressed or use the shower I do it behind closed doors. I'm just used to hiding myself from him.

But he's starting to think it's a problem.

I want to be naked in front of him. I find it quite confronting. Why should I do anything I'm uncomfortable with? Plus, I quite like the fact there is some mystery between us. I think not knowing each other inside and out is a good thing in a long-term relationship.

It makes him sad that I hide my body from him but no matter how hard I try, I can't bring myself to do it. No matter how much he reassures me that he loves me no matter what and that he thinks I'm beautiful, I don't want him to see me naked, ever.

Yes, I hide my body from him. Yes, I feel uncomfortable being naked around him, but I can't help it. I want to be comfortable around him but I'm not, I'm just not. The bottom line is that I look better with clothes on and with clothes on I'm more relaxed. I'm myself.

It's becoming a real problem only because he has suddenly decided it is abnormal for a husband not to have seen his wife naked, but I don't see what the big deal is.

Do you think that our reader should force herself to be confident enough to reveal her body?

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