There are a few things that perplex me as a modern woman but I’ll just share two:
1. Why, when both my husband and I work fulltime do I still get stuck doing the laundry?
2. Why are we still discussing the “post baby bod”?
Because here’s a newsflash – being skinny doesn’t make you a better mother.
Not even 48 hours after the Duchess of Cambridge had given birth, this magazine appeared in the UK:
And it’s – quite rightly – caused a storm of protest.
Furious British mums have urged people to boycott OK! It’s quickly sparked a backlash on Twitter and Facebook with some branding it “pathetic rot”.
Why are we constantly discussing celebrity’s post-baby weight loss routines? Why do we look at post-baby bikini reveals? Why do we verbally bash celebrities who take longer than a week or two to lose the weight?
Here’s the thing.
Kate is tall and slim and she was always going to look amazing after giving birth. It’s adorable how lovely her still-swollen stomach looked in her gorgeous dress on the stepped of St Mary’s Hospital to address the media.
It took me ages to lose my baby weight. I felt stressed and sad about my body. What a waste of time. I should have focused on enjoying my baby.
Weight is insignificant to your performance as a parent. Do you think your kids love you any less for carrying around some extra kilos? Do you love your children any less when you weigh more?
We don’t measure men by the gain and loss of a few kilos. How much they weigh takes nothing away from their achievements. We’ve created a culture where weight equals value for women. And celebrity culture is the worst.
Well, I’m calling bullshit.
I always joke that unlike Kate, I was pregnant from the top of my head to the tip of my toes. I also had to wear maternity clothes for a good two months after giving birth. Thank goodness for stretchy waist bands!
Do you know how much I regret my first year of motherhood? I wasted too much time lamenting my size and pouring over trash mags comparing myself to celebrities who looked amazing post-birth. My raging hormones blocked all logical thoughts like, “They have been photo-shopped”, “Look at how they are standing”, “Lighting can make you seem slimmer” and the most important thought, “It doesn’t matter how I look after having a baby as long as I am enjoying this special time.”
If only someone had removed all celebrity magazine from my house for that entire year. I used to wait for them to arrive and then read through them, measuring my worth next to the celebrities I was seeing.
But sometimes I worry that all the brainwashing from magazines has infiltrated our culture so profoundly that there’s no going back.
Photographer Jade Beall launched the ‘A Beautiful Body‘ Project, taking photos of real women with their babies. Her work is stunning, beautiful, real and comforting. Sadly she has received negative feedback from both men and women who have labelled her photos as ‘gross’. She posted the following message on her Facebook page in response:
“Yesterday I received a slew of comments from men (and, more shocking to me women too) that my work, and especially the self-portraits were not only gross and I quote:
“Does gaining excessive weight make a difficult pregnancy less difficult? No. Gaining excessive weight makes a difficult pregnancy, and all pregnancies MORE difficult. If you cared about prospective mothers, you’d want to spread that fact rather than trying to convince people that gaining a s*&load of weight during pregnancy is perfectly fine and healthy. It’s not.” -Bobananda Das ( a VALID comment, because a LOT of people write this to me. Do I agree? HECK NO! Will I listen? YES. I offered to this man to call me by phone so we could have a real human dialogue).