You have finally made it beyond the letter-box with your newborn. You are feeling pretty proud of yourself for getting out and about between feeds, poos and spews and you even have your own shirt on the right way round. But then some dear old lady spies your little ‘freshie’ and as she peers into your pram, she can’t resist asking, “Is he a good baby?” Then that dreaded next question, “Does he sleep all night?”
Suddenly you are hit by a wave of self-doubt. You wonder, should my baby be sleeping longer?
This isn’t helped by all the baby sleep programs advertising how to teach your baby to sleep ‘all night’. Especially when you read that babies can sleep eight hours or 12 hours or whatever is being promised. Or that you can expect your baby to give you a full night’s sleep when he is just a few weeks old – if you just follow the right ‘method’.
Firstly, ‘all night’ in baby sleep studies is defined as five hours, so if your baby has ever slept in a five hour stretch whether the sun is shining or the moon is up, you can quite honestly claim, “Yes, he is sleeping all night.” (Just mutter “sometimes” under your breath.)
Of course, all babies are unique little individuals and you may have hit the sleeping baby jackpot. If your baby is sleeping a longer stretch over night and is gaining weight and contented, that’s perfectly fine. However, very few babies can sleep longer than two or three hours in the early weeks – day or night – so if you are feeling pressure around your newborn’s sleep, please relax.
Here are some very good reasons your baby shouldn’t be sleeping all night just yet.
Newborn tummies are teeny tiny.
Look at your baby’s little clenched fist – at first your newborn’s stomach will only hold a teaspoon of milk, but by about 10 days, his tiny tummy will have stretched to about the size of his fist. This means that he will need frequent feeds for at least the first few weeks and even a few months or longer to get his daily quota of nourishment during this time of rapid growth and development. Also, breast milk is very efficiently digested so your new baby will need to feed between eight and twelve times in a 24 hour period – day and night.
Your breasts also need this frequent stimulation to establish milk production: there is more breast development happening during the first few weeks so by watching your baby’s early hunger signals and letting him feed accordingly, you will ‘set’ your milk production at a higher level. This means that by feeding your baby as frequently as he needs, once his tiny tummy stretches and his nervous system matures, he will enjoy your abundant milk supply and he will naturally start to sleep longer.