If someone were to ask me what my biggest fear is, I’d almost instantly reply with the answer: Dating.
And coming in at a close second? Ghosts.
So, what better way to celebrate the simply jubilant holiday season than to introduce you to a term that combines my two biggest fears. Behold the new and brutal trend sweeping the dating circle… getting “Marleyed”.
Not to be confused with “ghosting” or being ghosted by someone you’re currently seeing, if you’ve been “Marleyed”, it means an old flame has returned to haunt you at Christmastime. The term derives from A Christmas Carol, in which the ghost of Jacob Marley returns to haunt Ebenezer Scrooge.
An eHarmony study recently revealed that 11 per cent of single people have been “Marleyed”, and eight per cent have been the perpetrators of haunting (aka reaching out to an ex-partner).
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To some extent, you expect a certain level of “ghosting” or “stashing” in every fresh relationship. You enter with caution and expect the worst for self-preservation reasons.
But when a relationship is over, it’s over (or so we tell ourselves). It ended for a reason, where if it didn’t, the same issues would likely repeat themselves, only amplified.
And so, with a sniffle, we appropriately mourn the loss of said relationship and officially brand that person gone. Again, for self-preservation reasons.
It might sound like a tame concept to you, but in reality, the idea of being “Marleyed” is frankly terrifying. Because unlike most other dating trends, this one completely takes you by surprise.