Would you like to know the best way to make someone feel invisible and worthless and erase them of their sense of self-worth?
Invalidate their emotions and feelings.
If you don’t believe me then you have never been in a relationship with a narcissist or someone that was emotionally abusive.
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In a healthy relationship, your partner will validate (aka acknowledge) your experiences, thoughts, and feelings.
What does it mean when someone is invalidating you?
It is the act of purposefully denying, rejecting, minimising, negatively judging, and/or ignoring your expressed experience, thoughts, actions, or emotions. - Narcwise
Someone who wants to devalue their victim will use invalidation as it is one of the most powerful forms of manipulation and provides the abuser with full emotional control.
Based on my personal experience, here are four things that a narcissist may say to you in order to invalidate your feelings, thoughts, and experiences.
1. “I don’t remember anything from last night.”
A few years ago I was in a relationship with a narcissist. Everything was great for the first couple of months when he was kind, affectionate, and charming. I didn’t realise that I was being love-bombed.