A plea to daycares from a the mother of an exhausted child.
The one thing that drives me nuts about childcare.
I need to start this with a caveat, you know just in case.
Because the fact is that ALL childcare workers hold my complete and total admiration.
I entrust them with the safety and happiness of my children, time and time again.
They are dedicated, devoted, wonderful people, I am in awe of. (Am I making my point?)
And when I arrive to pick up my daughter and one of her carers is cuddling her, playing with her, engaging with her I am taken aback at the deep relationshship they have formed. It’s a beautiful thing.
Do you get it? Have I made it clear enough childcare workers rock my world?
And this is just a little but. A please-very-nicely-but.
A if-it-offends-I-take-it-straight-back but.
A please-still-love-my-daughter-as-much-as-you-do-if-you-read-this BUT:
Please stop making her nap during the day it is ruining my LIFE.
(Wooah there is another big caveat coming up just hang on)
You see (caveat ahead) I love my daughter and she is funny and endearing and sweet and generous. She is kind and wonderful to be around… until about 8pm. (7pm if truth be told).
And after that I love her JUST as much, and am totally devoted to her but, maybe a tiny bit more if she is asleep.
And so when those wonderful women (and the occasional man) who nurtures and cares for her at daycare decide it is in her best interests to have a THREE HOUR NAP in the middle of the day (despite my repeated pleas to just keep her awake for gods sake) that devotion is stretched, just a little, so the teeniest bits of seams can be seen.
Do you get where I am coming from? Are you nodding your head along with me?
Have you had a three, four or five year old who clearly doesn’t need a nap, clearly a tiny bit of quiet time would be just as effective at settling them down and yet is still lain down and snuggled up against your wishes? For three hours?
It’s a straight out disaster.
But while for us its is an out-of-control catastrophe of epic proportions, for the childcare workers, in many cases, it is something they don’t get a choice about – it is a directive from the big kahunas at head office. They claim to be just following the guidelines.
There is legislation regulating naps that require childcare centres to provide for each child’s individual sleep and rest needs.
But there are no specific guidelines regarding how children’s sleep needs should be met, this being said, the great many do enforce a practise of mandatory naps.