Being dumped, it is a situation most of us have been in, whether it’s a boyfriend or girlfriend, even a friend, the majority of us have been on the receiving end of this unfortunate life event. But what about being dumped by your nanny? This recently happened by someone I know, to a family she was working for. And I think it was the best decision she could have made.
This nanny was hired by a family to pick up their three children from school each day and look after them for about two hours until their parents returned home from work. Her main role was to supervise but also to help with homework, so nothing too complex. Despite the seemingly simple nature of this position description she only remained working for them for approximately three months before she quit.
Every day, five times per week when this nanny, let’s call her *Eve, went to the primary school to pick up the three children, two boys and a girl, she was greeted by silence. Despite her best efforts to ask how their day was, to begin conversation, to build rapport with them, they offered a very rare one-word response but mostly it was either an occasional grunt or tumble weed rolling, cricket chirping, silence.
Eve started off approaching this situation positively. She has worked with many children and some take a little longer to create connections with, a bit more time before they will ‘come out of their shell’, so she persisted, day in, day out. Eve is always one to put in 110%, she is a young woman who is much adored by the families she works for and one to rarely give up. For months she continually attempted to develop a relationship with each of the three children but regardless of how she tried, nothing seemed to work.
It became clear that this relationship was very one-sided and unless some sort of Mary Poppins or Maria Von Trapp like miracle occurred, it just wasn’t going to work out.
With this realisation Eve became quite anxious about looking after the children. It made her, for the first time since working with kids, not want to go to her job. While she was there she was miserable, the kids seemed miserable, it was like two hours of emotional torture, for them all, five times per week and she just couldn’t see any other solution then to cut her losses and move on.