You’re pregnant. Your partner offers a name for your unborn child. Claire, he suggests. You like the name so when your daughter is born, that’s the name you decide on.
Then, when your baby is four-weeks-old, you find that the name ‘Claire’ is really the name of your partner’s former fling, a woman he had previously slept with.
For one woman, there is no need to imagine because this is the reality she has is faced with, after being told by her now fiance’s family that he named their daughter after a woman who he has a lot of history with.
Reddit user nameconfusion took to the site to share her unfortunate story. During a visit from her fiance’s sister-in-law to see their new baby, the new mum found out the truth about where her partner’s inspiration for the name came from.
She wrote, "She (her fiance's sister-in-law) at one point told me that their whole family was surprised we chose that name (Claire) for our daughter. I asked her what she meant, and she mentioned something about it being a name with a lot of history for my fiance. I still had no idea what she meant, so I asked her to explain why the name had a history to it. She then revealed that the name was the same one that my fiance's crush has."
nameconfusion goes on to explain that while everyone calls her fiance's former fling 'Kaitlyn', her given name is actually Claire. And it appears that Claire is still very much a part of their life, with the woman explaining that her fiance always said she was a friend of his and nothing more.
She adds after more questioning of her fiance's sister-in-law, "I also found out that my fiance has not been honest about the nature of his relationship with Claire. His sister-in-law explained that my fiance has had a crush on Claire since he was 12. It lasted during their teenage years and beyond, and briefly turned physical during one summer break while they were in college. Even when my fiance was in law school out-of-state, he still fixated on Claire.
"His sister-in-law said that he hadn't said anything recently to make her think he still had a crush on Claire, which made me feel somewhat better, but I know for a fact that he still meets with her on occasion when he visits home. She also said that in college he told his parents that Claire was the only woman he ever loved. (Now, I know that people change over time, and that he made this statement a long time ago, but I can't help but worry that he still feels this way. It's not like he was a child when he said it.)"