I’m trying really hard not to assume everyone is a pedophile until proven otherwise but it’s getting harder and harder, particularly this week after listening to Hey Dad! star Sara Monahan talk to Mia Freedman on her No Filter podcast.
This week the Royal Commission into Institutional Responses to Child Sexual Abuse heard from the wife of former dance teacher Grant Davies who has been convicted of pedophilia and is awaiting sentencing in May. She had no idea what her husband was doing until she found explicit photos of a young girl and texts on his computer.
Some days it feels as though pedophiles are everywhere.
Last year I discovered someone close to me was a pedophile. I am still in shock. He is in prison but will be released at the end of this year and I am absolutely dreading it because despite his conviction and sentencing, he is still claiming he is innocent of the charges.
He’s offended that I would believe him capable of such despicable crimes.
It’s been hard to forgive myself for not recognising that a pedophile was near. I’ve always placed enormous faith in my motherly instinct but in this instance, it completely failed me. That’s what’s so disturbing about pedophilia.
They aren’t all the creepy old men. They can seem charming, generous, trustworthy and our children love them. They are priests, soccer coaches, teachers and volunteers.
Hey Dad! star Sara Monahan joined Mia Freedman on her No Filter podcast this week and spoke about the consequences of going public with her case.
Then there are the wives of pedophiles and our assumption they must have known something. In our eyes, they are as guilty as the pedophiles themselves. Certainly, people close to pedophiles do that to themselves.
How could I not have known?
Why didn’t I do more to stop them?
This week at the Royal Commission, the sister of convicted pedophile and former dance teacher Grant Davies said she wished she had seen the red flags for what they were. “I failed to do the right thing in seeing [Davies’ behaviour] as a red flag of paedophilia,” Rebecca Davies told the commission. She added that she wished she’d done more to protect the kids at the school. She struggled to speak through the tears.