A mother, distressed after her ex-husband had their son’s hair cut without her permission, has turned to her fellow mums on social media for support only to be shocked be told to stop being so dramatic.
The mum, with the user name 4n0nym0u5 wrote on the UK parenting site Mumsnet: ” I have a 4 year old boy and he has (had) longish hair….looked like a little rockstar and people always commented on how good he looked.”
She explained that he was having his school photo taken and she was keen for him to show off his long hair in the photograph.
She said when her ex-husband picked up their son for an overnight stay she explained that it was his school photo the next day and she told her ex-husband she had wanted the little boy’s hair long for the photo. To her horror she says hours later had text from her ex saying he was taking the boy for a haircut.
She writes: “I got a text this morning saying that he has asked him if he wants his hair cutting and my 4-year-old son apparently said, yes, I want to look like a boy. So he booked him in to have it cut this afternoon. I text him pleading that he doesn't get it cut, I rang but he never answered and when he did I begged in tears he didn't do it, that he just leave it for this weekend and I’d get it cut after his photo. He said he’s going to see what my son wants.”
The distraught mother says: “My ex has it in his head that only girls have long hair and boys hair should be short. he is very steryotypical [sic] Hes due to drop my son off at 7pm tonight, and I’m dreading seeing his short hair. I’m going to show a smile for my son and say wow look how handsome you are, but inside I will be heartbroken.”
The woman's post. Via Mumsnet.
Immediately other mumsneters questioned her: "“I'm a bit lost as to why you're so fixated on this, but I think that I would let my DS choose how he wanted his hair.”
Another: “Your son said he wanted his hair cut and his dad had it cut so I don't see the problem. I know you're upset, but it's not your hair.”
After comments such as “F*****g hell its just hair. It should be up to your son” she goes on to explain "my son told me he wants it long, but his dad said he told him he wants it short!
But the other posters didn’t agree.
“You think he looked like a little rock star yet think your ex is unreasonable?”
Just some of the responses. Via Mumsnet.
Another wrote “I'm sure you have lots of pictures of him with "rockstar" hair. I can't really understand the crying, begging and wailing about a haircut YOUR DS wanted. You sound like your priorities are far to driven by what you want your son to look like rather than what he wants TBH.
I'm with your EX on this.”
Yet another told her to “stop being so dramatic”.
“I think you need to concentrate on bigger things than haircuts”
“I'm guessing your child will also tell each of his parents what he thinks they want to hear.”
Others told her to stop focusing on her son’s appearance: Seems to be an obsession among some mums of boys to fixate on never cutting their hair. Children aren't dolls for you to fashion into what you want..