My husband and I separated two months ago and much to everyone’s dismay, I am not asking him for child support for our three children (I will give you a moment to gasp).
Hear me out! Divorce is a messy business and not for the faint of heart. I should know as this is the hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life. The trickiest part, at least with my ex, is keeping this civil for the children.
Each and every day I wake up and make the decision to show him grace even though I spent the last 10 years of my life in a very unhealthy relationship. Extending grace is a selfless strength and is what separates the women from the girls. Putting your children’s needs above your own is a must.
No one walks away from a divorce unscathed, especially the kids. Who after all, are completely innocent and dragged through the consequences of our failed marriage.
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So why am I not asking for child support?
I assure you, it is not because I am rich or well off. I make ends meet, yes, but am I thriving? Heck no! But I am making it and we need for nothing.
I am choosing not to ask him for child support because ultimately, it is best for my kids.
We have agreed to share the cost of child related expenses i.e. daycare, but he does not owe me any money after that point. The way I see it is, if he is handing me over hundreds of dollars a month, how is he ever going to move on?
My ex has a good job but he is not made of dough. It is much healthier for my kids to see him establish himself so they have two healthy parents thriving in society. Would the extra money help me? Absolutely! However, would him setting up a life with my children on his time benefit my kids? Most definitely.