I took my time moving out of home.
I was working full time but earning terrible money and my work hours were long and unforgiving. It was so easy to come home and crawl into my childhood bed, to eat the dinner my mother made for me and to stay cocooned in the warmth of the family home.
Luckily for me I came from an Italian family so it was perfectly normal to still be living at home at 24. In fact there was an unspoken rule that I would remain at home until I either a. Got married or b. Moved away for work. Fine by me.
Sometimes I envied my friends who were living on their own or with roommates, meeting their mums for lunch and choosing their own laundry powder. I even toyed with the idea of moving in with one of them before quickly changing my mind because I just couldn’t be bothered.
Then, I met a boy. You know how it goes. He lived on his own and I started visiting more often, playing house. I started thinking about joining all the other grown ups and moving in with him. Except I didn’t want to just move in with him. I wanted to move away from my family and figure out who I was without them.
I was 25 by the time I took the leap, moving to a home an hour away from my parent’s home. I know an hour may not seem to be a big deal to you but my parents aren’t the most mobile of people and never drive to the city, so my move was tantamount to moving somewhere three hours away.
It was absolutely thrilling. Why had I taken so long to start my life? Grocery shopping was fun. I got to choose the foods I wanted to eat and even prided myself on domestic duties. Not until my boyfriend and I eventually married and I had my first child did I start wishing I live just a little closer to mum and dad.
At first I used to do the weekly drive on a Thursday to see my parents and my older sister who had kids and had already found a home just a five minute drive away from the family home. Eventually I grew reluctant to return home on Thursday evenings. I craved my family around me, especially because I now had a family of my own. I wanted to see them every day, especially my mum.