This is what she wants for her daughter. Above all else. Sigh.
What do you want for your kids? Success? Love? A good education?
Or do you just want them to be smoking hot? To rock out their Year 12 formal gown like no other girl in that room? To wow the other parents when they get the class photo?
You think I am speaking in jest right? No one could possible have ‘good looks’ as the top of their wish list for their daughter’s life, could they?
And one brave mother has written about it to prove it.
British mother Polly Phillips has told The Daily Mail that her number one goal for her 11-month old daughter is that she is pretty.
“While we all want what’s best for our daughters, few of us are brave enough to face the reality that more attractive people tend to do better in life,” she wrote.
“And more importantly, that even, wave after wave of feminism later, women still worry about their looks more than anything else.”
She says that studies have shown attractive people get paid more and get ahead further in life.
“Being born beautiful breeds an innate sense of confidence and self-worth that equip you to deal with the ups and downs of growing up.”
She says, “Who can honestly say that, were it under their control, they wouldn’t want their daughter to be pretty too?”
That “beauty is [the] most important attribute for her daughter.”
While her words make me want to go find that other “earth-like” planet Nasa discovered last week and see if we women get a better deal over there, I can, sadly, see where she is coming from.
Even if I don’t quite agree.
She’s right, we all want the best for our kids.
She’s right that if there was a mysterious god-like creature looming above me in the delivery suite while I was screaming for more-bloody-happy-gas-now asking me to choose whether I wanted a baby with ogre-type looks or the cute one, who wouldn’t say the cute one?
But she is wrong in her belief that being beautiful makes you happy. Sadly I know plenty of genetically blessed individuals whose lives are, frankly, pretty shit.
Just a look through history shows us that being beautiful or desirable doesn’t guarantee happiness, and to think so is naïve.
Model Cameron Russell admits she won the “genetic lottery” but says it doesn’t always make her happy. (Post continues after video.)
Polly Phillips says that she believes deep down that most people agree with her but that she is the only one brave enough to say it.
Well, no there IS someone else brave like you Polly.
Someone else who “just wants to be pretty”.
Someone else with whom I fight on a daily basis to show her, to prove to her that there is more to life than ice blue dresses and sparkly crowns.