It’s a dilemma that most women who’ve been pregnant have experienced: unsolicited touching of their pregnant bellies.
Whilst some women enj0y it, and others tolerate it, some find it extremely…problematic. On such woman, Chantelle*, called into to Mamamia‘s parenting podcast This Glorious Mess, to tell her story:
“But my problem is this: she loves to touch my stomach when I’m pregnant and I hate it. if someone asks me, that’s different. I’m in my third pregnancy and it happens every time.”
Chantelle explains that it’s become a huge issue between her and her husband.
“My husband says he will say something the next time he sees it, but it always happens when he’s not looking.”
“I have high anxiety towards this issue and we can’t agree on which way to tackle it. He wants to pull her aside when she next visits and tell her before she does it, but that could be really offensive, and lets her know we’ve been talking about her.”
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But Chantelle is torn, because she genuinely dislikes and dreads the experience.
“It’s been so bad that one time we knocked tummies. She turned it into a belly-on-belly rubbing session. This time, she rubbed my belly when I was only 8 weeks along.”
Chantelle wants her husband to be subtle in approaching his mother, and would prefer him to wait for it to happen, and then then talk to her quietly. Clearly not sure about what to do, Chantelle asks TGM what their advice is.