Linda* is hurridly eating a quick lunch of fetta, kale and pepita seeds out of a take away container when she stops to talk to me in the school playground as we wait for the bell.
Its 3pm, but she has been on the go since her early morning walk at 5.30am. Since then she’s put in a full day’s work as a horticulturalist, stopped at the bookshop to pick up the latest novel for her bookclub and now she has dropped in to the playground to take her grandkids up the road for a milkshake before she heads home to get ready for date night.
She’s 61 and prefers to see her grandkids on her terms, on her time – not when she’s scheduled for babysitting.
She’s 61 and prefers to see her grandkids on her terms. Image via Stock.
Linda is what many researchers say is one of a new breed of grandparents.
She’s not putting her hand up for babysitting or volunteering one day of her week to look after tantruming two-year-olds. She doesn’t do school holiday minding, nor after school duties.
No, she’s done her time and is too busy living her life to go back there.
“Oh I adore them” she tells me. “But I’m not their mother, nor their babysitter. I’ve got a job and a life of my own.
Today’s grandparents, as explained recently by The New York Times are a combination of younger baby boomers and older Generation X’ers. They are under 65 and the majority, not yet retired.
They are busy in a new phase of their lives that doesn’t have room for them to drop everything and care for their grandkids.
Linda’s daughter, a fellow school mum tells me she understands her mum is busy but sometimes she wonders what it would be like to have one of those hands-on grandmas happy to pick up the gaps where working parents need it. Sometimes, when she pays for after-school care and day care she wonders if she’s lucked out.
In Australia, the average age of grandparents is between 58- 60. But as Australians live longer and work longer these grandparents are more active, busier and, many of them, less interested in their grandchildren than the stereotype of a grandparent we have come to expect.