I’m going to keep this brief. Wish me luck with that.
I’ve started a new video series called Ask Mia which is kind of self-explanatory.
Regularly (hopefully each week), I’ll be answering questions about anything. Personal, work-related, about space (the answer to any space-related question will be “……..”, you’ve been warned). I want you to be able to hear directly from me in a raw, unfiltered way.
When I asked for questions, one topic drowned out the others and I’m pleased because it’s something I’ve wanted to address for a long time. After two years of conjecture, I finally answer a question about my ‘problem’ with sex workers and why I’m ‘whorephobic’ [spoiler: I’m not].
But there are two parts to this post and to this question: the talking and the listening.
In the video below, I say my bit and hopefully put this issue to bed (pun intended).
You can watch it, here:
But more than talking about this topic, I realised I needed to do more listening. And so I invited sex worker, porn star and sex therapist Madison Missina to sit with me in the new Mamamia podcast studio to record an episode of No Filter.
Here’s me listening to Madison:
And here’s me listening some more:
It was one of the more enlightening hours I’ve spent in a long time. I learned about the whore-archy, why some words provoke hostility in the sex work community, how she did actually dream of being a sex worker as a little girl and how she made those ambitions come true. I learned how she moved from sex work to porn, the most hot-button issue for sex workers and why so many of us make ignorant statements about it. I learned about the politics of anal sex in porn and why nobody has pubic hair and I learned about the single investment in her appearance that increases her income more than anything else.