I wouldn’t say the pandemic was relaxing for... literally anyone, but for anyone managing small kids (and especially mothers) it added another level of logistics on top of an already heaped mental load.
The common response when you talk about the mental load is “lower your expectations”. But for most mums I know, that’s not realistic. School uniforms still need washing, lunches need to be made, bills to be paid, doctor's appointments, swimming lessons, and a sprinkling of birthday parties and playdates.
Surely in an era when we have 26 streaming services and Viennetta ice-cream on a stick we don’t have to compromise?
Of course there’s a deeper issue here about relationships and gender roles, and lots of very clever people have already weighed in on that. If you’re overloaded and looking for practical tips, I’ve got you covered.
So, here are the 7 exact ways I’m reducing the mental load of parenting in 2022.
Learning exactly when to call in the pros.
When a job needs doing, it can be tempting to try to DIY it, but looking back over my first few years as a parent I realised I’d waste so much time, money and mental energy trying to do things myself for a sub-par result.
One of my key ways to conquer the mental load this year has been to call in a skilled professional to get jobs done properly so it’s off my list for good.
Airtasker actually been so perfect for this.
If you’re not already using Airtasker, it’s a platform to help anyone get more... done, basically. And done well, by someone who knows a heck of a lot more than you do about a particular area or task.
You can post any task you need done, set your budget and book a Tasker. It’s that easy.
Taskers are all skilled in their own niches, and you can basically have anything completed on Airtasker: hedge trimming, carpet cleaning, Wi-fi set up, mounting your TV on the wall, dog training, kids' party clean-up, face painting – even finding someone to teach you Spanish. You can also have digital tasks completed remotely, like illustration, logo design, website development, accounting or data entry.
This blows my mind.
After the recent rain at my Sydney home (thanks La Niña), it seems an entire community of cockroaches moved into our bathroom... cue the horror. Numerous trips to Bunnings, cans of bug spray and cockroach baits later... nothing seemed to be working. In fact, they seemed to be calling all their mates and doubling in numbers!