Last night my family and I sat on couches and the odd dining chair and had a conversation about how dodgy the chicken schnitzel is on tuckshop sandwiches, whether anyone understands the concept of folding a ‘throw’ and slinging it back over the couch arm after using it, and “good” men.
The last topic point went on for a bit longer than the others. There were six of us in various states of after work and school tiredness; my husband, three daughters and a teenage boy who is living with us at the moment.
As you can see by my casual use of the word “throw” and tuckshop sandwiches that contain chicken schnitzel, we are a lucky, privileged family. I am white, university educated and employed. If my daughters want to they will have the means and opportunity to attend university too.
Yet the conversation about good men turned convoluted and full of caveats and counter-arguments. And that was just me.
Yes, misogyny is alive and well…
Yes, it’s not fair that men don’t know the fear we know…
Yes, I know we shouldn’t praise men for simply doing the right thing, but…
Despite all of the privileges inherent in a lounge-room with two couch throws, there is a gender narrative my daughters are told regularly: men are the enemy.
In the past week I have read about, and so have my kids (or they have plucked details out of the information ether), the Sydney Boys High International Women's Day video that went viral and the backlash they received for making it. We've scrolled through memes depicting men as useless buffoons due to the fallout from the Household Income and Labor Dynamics in Australia (HILDA) survey that found women are still doing far more housework and childcare per week than men, even if they are both working full-time. We've had discussions about a 15-year-old school boy allegedly raping a 15-year-old school and another boy videoing it.
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I was steeling myself for a Bettina Arndt style rant about how men have it way worse than women and feminists are all deluded, but this was really well written and balanced.
Thanks for this.