I was 18 so any dates I’d been on in the past were more of a ‘meet at the bus-stop’ affair.
Clint was 24 at the time. He had manners (especially compared to 18-year-olds – I had a guy once beep out the front and my Dad was so peeved).
I didn’t expect him to come to the door, I thought he would text me when he was outside, but he came and knocked on the door – my sister answered and he introduced himself he then came inside an said ‘hello’ to both parents. I was so nervous and awkward. I said “Clint, this is my mum,” and he said “Hi, mum”. (Lame, I know.) It was a painstaking five minutes of small talk and then we left.
He was nice though. He kissed my mum on the cheek. Shook my dad’s hand. Asked them if I there was a time I needed to be home.
My parents have always had a good relationship with him since then – especially my dad because he had his fair share of ‘horn honkers’ between my sister and I. (My sister even had a boyfriend who would charge my mum for petrol money if he picked her up from the train station. Even though my mum would feed him dinner, he would charge her $10 for a lift.)
My dad, to this day, still says “Clint came to the door”.
We are getting married next Friday, I can’t believe it and we’ve been together for almost 10 years
This is the story of Nicolle. Without knowing it, her partner’s manners (and that awkward five-minute conversation and kiss on the cheek) might have formed the foundation to the success of their relationship.
According to brain behaviour specialist, Terri Bowman, meeting your partner’s parents early (in this case, on the first date) can help couples understand each other better before taking things further. It’s an opportunity to make an almost-sub-conscious decision about the relationship, before getting caught up in the emotions and messiness and passion of falling in love
It makes sense.
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Nerves aside, meeting the parents is a mine of juicy information on the person you’re dating. You can better understand their values and temperament by watching the way they interact with and introduce their family. For example:
Is their dad as awkward as your dad? Are the Dad Jokes and socks-with-sandals game on par?
Is this very-cute-individual’s mother still giving him money for the dentist? Is she supportive? Or monster-in-law material?