It’s hardly surprising that when men and women go on reality television, they come away with a very different set of experiences.
Just this week on Bachelor in Paradise, we’ve watched Jake Ellis and Davey Lloyd grapple with their relative ‘ownership’ of Florence Moerenhout. Can Davey take Florence on a date when she already belongs to Jake, even though she’s had precisely no say in the matter? Then, is Jake allowed to ask Florence on a date when Davey was having a turn with her?
They’re the types of questions we can’t imagine anyone asking about a man, because men generally aren’t playthings. They’re the ones who do the playing.
Likewise, the tabloid gossip coming out in the wake of the most recent season of Married at First Sight is unarguably gendered. Sarah was too clingy and scared Telv away. Ashley’s getting ‘revenge’ on Troy by dating Justin. And Tracey is ‘abandoning’ her daughter to pursue her relationship with Sean.
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Speaking to New Idea this week, 35-year-old Tracey Jewel announced she was moving from Perth to Melbourne with 34-year-old Sean Thomsen, and her eight-year-old daughter won’t be moving with her.
“We are moving to Melbourne!” she told the publication.
“When we move there, I want to focus on my writing and Sean’s almost qualified as a personal trainer. I’ll travel to Perth regularly to see my daughter and she’ll come here on school holidays.”
The reaction online was swift and brutal. On Monday morning, Tracey shared a photo to Instagram, presumably in an attempt to quash the outrage.
Alongside an image of three magazines, one of which featured the headline, ‘I’m leaving my daughter to live with Sean,’ Tracey wrote, “Monday Magday #coffeeneeded #mondayfunday #dontbelieveeverythingyouread”.