I’ve been watching Channel 9’s Married at First Sight this year with great interest.
Not for the usual hilarity of watching complete strangers “scientifically” matched (meaning “matched based on what is going to create the most ratings from the drama of putting incompatible people together”), but for a reason much closer to home.
This season, there is a male stripper navigating a new relationship.
Last year I featured on the ABC’s documentary series “Moment of Truth”, which captured the early stages of my current relationship with my partner Bec. At the time, I was going through the many levels of introducing her to my world as porn star and prostitute Madison Missina.
At one point, I remember Bec thinking the whole disclosure was nothing (well, by agreeing to come on a show with me about my work, she obviously knew), yet I was terrified.
Listen: Mia Freedman interviews Madison about her work on the No Filter podcast. (Post continues after audio.)
Despite being one of the most recognisable industry figures, being truly confident and open in my career choice, and Bec already knowing conceptually what I did, showing her my in-call (where prostitutes see our clients), my work equipment and my work clothes was the part where it was going to become real.
I was scared. I felt naked.
The decision of when and how to open up to potential partners about our careers is always a hot topic. In my relationship with Bec, once I’ve come out to another of her friends, the next question is usually “When did you disclose?”
On Tuesday’s episode we saw another rather out-there and confident industry figure, Michael, making a pained disclosure of his work to Scarlett. We watch as a usually confident man stumbles, over-justifies and explains himself.
It’s the moment that almost everyone in the adult entertainment industry dreads. When no matter how much of the rest of our worlds, our values and our dreams we’ve shared — or how good we are as people — it can all come crashing down because we have chosen a job that is stigmatised.