Follow the Golden Rule here, ladies.
Every night, as children sleep peacefully in their beds and husbands (usually) lounge on the couch with a bag of chips and watch television, women are tirelessly working. There are clothes to be ironed, next-day lunches to be made, lists to be written, and doors to be locked.
Some men may command these roles, but more often than not, the maternal figure is tending to these responsibilities.
As the man moves from the couch to the bed and waits on his lovely lady to join him, she still isn’t done. Night cream has to be applied, chin hairs need to be plucked and ashy knees and elbows need to be lotioned.
Finally, after checking on the children and the locked doors yet again, the woman slips into her comfortable bed and heaves a collective sigh of relief because no one needs anything else from her today. She can finally soak in the silence of the house and rest.
But before she’s even closed her eyes, he’s turned onto his side to face her. She knows what he wants, what he needs (yes, I said NEEDS). Although exhausted and covered in various creams and lotions, she’s the one who is responsible for meeting his needs.
I'm sure I've already outraged women everywhere with those few opening paragraphs. I know what you are saying:
"This isn't 1950! Women aren't submissive pieces of flesh whose only purpose is to service a man! She doesn't have to do ANYTHING before going to sleep! He has a hand!"
Ladies, I hear you. Please take a moment to calmly breathe, take another sip of your coffee/wine and read on before you congregate on my front lawn with picketing signs.
I recently wrote an article, “The mistakes I’ve made (and you have too) as a wife.”, and one of my faults is not making time for my husband in the sexual department. I received many positive comments and emails regarding the article, but it made some women incredibly angry that I had the audacity to insinuate that a woman should put her husband's desires before her own.
Because, apparently, selfishness is a horrible thing unless we are talking about sex.
Sex isn't solely about you, woman. Let that sink in. If you have a good man (as I do) who values, loves, respects and honours you in every way, then there is absolutely nothing wrong in giving him what only you can offer - even if you'd rather sleep, watch television, pin recipes or play Candy Crush.
Simply, it's called putting other's needs before your own, and yes, I use the term "needs" because that's exactly what they are.
Sex is a real physical need for men that women just don't have.
It's not my opinion. It's science.
Women do not have a biological drive for sex. We want sex based on hormones that fluctuate due to our reproductive cycle, our emotions and the hypothalamus in our delicate female brains. We just don't need sex in the same way that our men require it. This doesn't mean we are completely lacking a libido or that sex isn't a wonderful and mandatory part of our lives. It simply means that we don’t have as much testosterone as men (but just enough to trigger the growth of that chin hair).
