Madison Missina is an award-winning porn star and sex therapist who is here to answer all your sex questions.
I’m struggling with my libido, what can I do to get it back?
Us women can be completely uninterested in sex, but go through the motions and still have a pretty enjoyable sexual experience. It’s one of the hidden bonuses to womanhood.
Our libido is not something that really needs to be in full swing for us to have good sex. If you’ve ever attempted to conceive over a long period of time you would have experience this. Believe me, I tried for eight months. Sex became a chore to be done like clockwork, but surprisingly it was still enjoyable, once I was doing it.
But as a sexologist, I don’t like telling women to just go through the motions and trust that your body will catch up. I think there is so much to gain from purely just wanting to have sex. So let’s talk the female libido, what is it? Where does it go? And how do we get it back?
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The libido is the natural frequency of your body’s spontaneous sexual urge and it also covers how open you are to sexual advancement. So when you pick up that your partner is in the mood, it controls how quickly, if at all, you find yourself getting in the mood too.
Our libidos will naturally ebb and flow throughout our lives and within our relationships. If you think back to when you were first in love, you probably wanted sex almost all of the time. But then as the relationship gets comfortable, children are welcomed into the family, mortgage repayments start to become a thing, the sex starts to lose its pull.