There is something truly tragic about falling for a person your friend is dating.
Do you tell them, act on it or just hope the feelings go away?
The question of should you or shouldn’t you persue it was brought up on this week’s episode of Mamamia relationship podcast Love Life.
Love Life delves into matters of the heart by allowing callers to leave their problems on our podcast voicemail each week.
Hosts Osher Gunsberg and psychologist Leanne Hall listen to the calls before dishing out some very real, and sometimes hard to hear, advice.
Listen to one of our first callers pour his heart out to Osher and Leanne.
Here’s one of the calls we received this week, from Dave:
“Guys, I’m in love. I’m totally in love.”
“Except, it’s such a cliche, it’s with my best mates ex-girlfriend.
When they were still together, I told her I loved her and she kind of said it back. They were together for five years and have only been broken up for three months.
I want to give her space but I also feel like I want to wife this woman immediately. How long should we wait, do you think, until we can be together? And how do we break the news?”
Leanne was quick to offer some hard advice about what this behaviour said about him as a friend.
“Oh geez mate, how much do you value your friendship? You kind of don’t. I have to say, you’ve told your best mate’s girlfriend while they were together,” she said.
“That’s just disloyal, you don’t go there.”
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