Hearing the news that TODAY Show host Lisa Wilkinson and her husband of 25 years, Peter FitzSimons, had their second wedding on Saturday gave me all of the fuzzies.
Lisa and Pete could easily have let their silver anniversary slip by with a quiet dinner for two, where, if they were lucky, the restaurant would surprise them with a slice of cake and a congratulatory message written in chocolate sauce (I clearly imagine they celebrate big events at The Coffee Club).
Instead, they returned to their original wedding venue, Sydney’s Balmoral Bathers’ Pavilion. Lisa donned a perfect white dress (with pockets!) and Pete, dapper in a black tuxedo. With flowers, cake and their adult children as their bridal party, the pair didn’t shy away from it – they were having a proper, unabashed second wedding. Pete even re-proposed two years ago. And I bloody love it.
So why aren’t more couples doing it?
Before I go on, I’m acutely aware that, right now, there are thousands of Australians who can only dream of getting married once, let alone twice. It’s a luxury to entertain the option of a second wedding and one I hope all of us will soon share.
Lately I’ve noticed that when it comes to marriage, there is a great sense of finality. Not just the “for better or worse, in sickness and in health” parts – but the public act of a wedding.
For most, it is the first and last time it is socially acceptable to openly bask in the smugness of our love for our significant other. One. Special. Day. The best of our lives. Then we’re expected to shut up about it and move out to the suburbs.
In the past, I’ve asked my parents if they would ever consider renewing their vows after 35 years of marriage. I wasn’t there the first time round and would love to see it. But they laugh it off, insisting they’ve had “their special day”. One. Special. Day.