As I peed on my sixth pregnancy test that day, I knew I had a problem. Aside from spending way too much money on pregnancy tests, I had become addicted to them.
Just one more and it might be positive.
It takes TIME for the pregnancy hormones to register on them.
I drank a lot of water so it’s too diluted to work.
It was while I was trying to fall pregnant with my second child that I temporarily lost my mind. And I swore I would never do this to myself. I had a beautiful son. I was so lucky to even have one child. I wanted to try for another one and promised myself I’d be okay no matter what happened.
Just as an FYI, this post is sponsored by IVFAustralia, Melbourne IVF and Queensland Fertility Group. But all opinions expressed by the author are 100 per cent authentic and written in their own words.
“If it’s meant to be, it will be,” I assured everyone.
There was no reason why I couldn’t get pregnant. I’d done it once before and it had happened in the first month. But I had now been trying for over a year.
I admit it. I was distraught.
I was in such a manic state that I also lost the ability to sort through the information being thrown at me, the unsolicited pregnancy advice and the old wives tales coming from all directions. WHY had I told everyone I was trying to fall pregnant?
I’ll never make that mistake again.
Here are the 6 biggest lies I was told while I was trying to fall pregnant. If you are going through this journey too, you’ll be prepared for when they are told to you.
1. It will happen when you are not thinking about it.
I lost count of the number of times I was told this doozey. Really? It will happen when I’m not thinking about it? Okay then…um…think of England, think of England, think of England.
Firstly, what you are thinking about has nothing to do with whether or not conception takes place. It also implies blame on my part. I’m the reason I’m not falling pregnant because I’m thinking about it too much.
What am I meant to think about?
I think their point was that I was a tad too stressed about it and I just needed chill, but I was relaxed at first. At first I was totally fine. It was when we were in the seventh and eighth month of trying that it became stressful and all I could think about.
So not thinking about it hadn’t worked.
2. It will happen when you are relaxed.
Apparently I was meant to not only stop thinking about it, but let it happen while I was relaaaaxed. It was suggested that we take a holiday.
A well-meaning friend constantly told me about how she was having trouble falling pregnant and so she and her husband went away for a dirty weekend and ta da!
So I booked us into a hotel for the weekend and we did our best to:
a. Not think about falling pregnant
c. Have sex for fun instead of conception
It didn’t work.