An open letter to a coward:
Two days ago you wrote me a letter entitled, “The Truth”. In it you outlined the process whereby you fictionalised two years of my life and justified the ways in which you chose not to mention that you were indeed still married to your wife and indeed still living together in the home you have shared for many years. You called it The Truth. But I would like to take this opportunity to correct you.
Here is “The True Truth”.
You are a liar. You chose lying every morning when you woke. Every single morning. Because you are also selfish. You wanted me and you knew I wouldn’t want you if I knew the truth. You’re right. I told you so many times that I loved you. But here it is. I take it back. I didn’t love you. I loved Fake You. He was a really good man. You are not a good man.
You let me believe in our future. Do you remember when we planned a wedding together over the phone? I remember. Do you remember that we did that without being engaged? I remember. And now I know why.
The truth is that I began to believe that I would have a wonderful life with you. Because we planned it all. Together. You let me believe that after maintaining a long-distance relationship, we would be living together in a place we had chosen together and that we would travel the world together and we would one day live near the water and be close to my family because you loved them. And all of that was a lie. One week before I moved to Melbourne to be with you permanently, you decided to finally tell ‘The Truth’. And let us be clear about that. You only did it because there was no way out. If I hadn’t been moving, you would have continued the lie.
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Same thing happened to me. I am angry. And, I am tired of being told to forgive for myself and move on. This type of behavior needs to stop. I did everything I thought I could do to be sure he was the one. Yes, it was long distance but that doesn’t justify intentionally lying. His wife threatened me (that’s how I found out). And, she tried to make me out to be the angry side chick. She actually believed this nonsense. He kept lying even said horrible hurtful things about me to her, that she repeated to me. He would never tell me the truth. He is a coward to have pursued me knowing I wasn’t interested in any type of situation like this. Even worse that he couldn’t be honest when things started to unravel. So sad. So hurt. I hate that if I ever attempt to date again I need to hire a PI and do a background check. It’s sickening to know the extent men will go through to get something they want. I can only wish that sick narcissistic bastard well. Have a happy life knowing you hurt an innocent person that actually cared about you.
That could have been written by me. My long distance boyfriend of two years also lied about his marital status. Not until I flew to the US to be with him and hired a PI did I find out the truth. However, when confronted he would still not admit the truth. I feel your pain. It feels like my spirit has been mortally wounded. At least if he admitted the truth that might make it easier but he continues the lie. Thank you for your story.