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It was about 2 am and I was in my car, loaded with every belonging I owned and my very confused dog in the passenger seat.
I was sneaking out. Away from a relationship leading nowhere. I had settled for a guy who was not who I was meant to end up with, graduated college early and declined a PAID FOR graduate degree opportunity, took a dead-end cubicle job so I could move to his tiny hometown and “start a life”. Nothing was as it seemed when I got there.
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We didn’t get a house right away like he promised. We lived with his mum. His mum was overbearing and was jealous I was taking her son. I was basically relegated to sitting in the corner and doing nothing. I wasn’t allowed to cook (my great joy) or make any other decisions or contributions to the household. I LOATHED being at the house and he didn’t get home until 11pm or later each night. He told me he was working late but I later found he was going out with his guys and texting other women.
He refused to stand up to his mother for me. He also refused to get an apartment with me when “it was free at his mum’s ”. He had promised we would marry soon after I graduated. Now it was too much of an expense and not on the table.
I started to see who he really was. He was spineless and had zero drive in life. He made less than $30k and had no desire to make more ever since his mother paid for everything. I am not a gold digger, but I am full of drive and ambition and his lack thereof dug at me. I tried to push him to be better. To ask for a raise, to get his financials in order, to build his credit. But one day I realized.