He’s the millionaire bad-boy of radio, known for his controversial on-air stunts and offensive comments. But it turns out, Kyle Sandilands is a vulnerable human being, just like the rest of us.
Well, maybe not exactly like the rest of us.
In this surprising interview with Meshel Laurie – one that she’s sure she will “get a lot of blowback for” – Kyle reveals some very interesting life details:
You can listen to Kyle telling Meshel about his childhood, here. The full interview is at the bottom of this story. (Post continues after audio.)
Details like that he has imposter syndrome and really just wants to go to bed early.
Details like, he grew up in a household he describes as “toxic”, where his father hit his mother.
And details about how he has used sex as a way to chase away heartbreak.
There is certain level of cautiousness and carefulness that quavers in Sandilands’ voice as he speaks about a childhood involving “alcohol and two parents who weren’t in love with one another.”
For most of us, the environment we grow up in effects the kind of adult we later become. For Sandilands, this is reflected in specific decisions he makes. Like the fact that he doesn’t drink alcohol.
“In my mind…from being a child, around that alcoholism, I thought, that might be the poison, like if that’s in me, then maybe I could be that devil. So I just always avoided alcohol, and obviously that’s a weird issue. Plenty of people drink and they don’t get violent…but my mum was a victim of that sort of behaviour…” he says.
Sandilands and Jackie O. (Image: Instagram.)
As Laurie says during the interview "when [his behaviour] is newsworthy, it's usually because it's hideous. But there is much, much more to Kyle Sandilands than that."
And one example of that is the courageous selflessness he displayed when he forgave his father. For everything.
"No one ever discussed what went on when I was a kid....I was out of home when I was a teenager for a while, then bitter towards my parents...I had a pretend relationship with them for years, it was only the last five or 10 years that I have forgiven them" he explains.
One fragment of how he came to forgive them was a level of empathy he developed later in his life, for what they were going through while he was growing up. They were 23 when he came into the world, and his mother was suffering from post-natal depression.
"They didn't know what post natal depression was back then, and dad...got on the booze, and listened to Johnny O'Keefe and [went] rampaging around the house. I think I blamed them... I held them accountable for their actions... without no one ever discussing it, without them ever knowing what they were going through back then. But no excuse for his behaviour."