My husband was approximately 30 kilos overweight when he told me I needed to “lose a couple more kilos”. Some say it is the continuation of the weight double-standard whereby portly men still think it’s okay to comment on the weight of women. But in this instance my husband wasn’t to blame.
I asked for it. I had been whinging and complaining about the fact I couldn’t fit into any of my favourite clothes and he, in his very directly male way said, “Just do something about it then!” So I did. I started dieting and exercising until I could fit into all of my beautiful clothes again.
Not that my weight issues were over. I gain and lose the same few kilos every year or two. It’s pretty common and not a big deal. But I know that if I complain about it to my husband – while eating another handful of my beloved chocolate bullets – he’s going to say something.
Even though he is overweight himself.
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This week radio host Kyle Sandilands has been criticised for “fat-shaming” his co-host Jackie O on The Kyle & Jackie O Show. The Daily Mail took issue with his constant commentary about Jackie O’s weight by pointing out that he was pretty big himself and that Jackie O’s current weight of 66 kilos was within the “normal range”.
But Jackie O doesn’t want to weigh 66 kilos. She wants to weigh 60 kilos. She wants to go back to her pre-pregnancy weight when she felt the most comfortable and she is allowed to do that. She is allowed to make decisions about how to change her body.
When it comes to Kyle and his constant taunting of Jackie and her failed weight loss attempts, to accuse him of fat-shaming her is complete bullshit. It’s actually really offensive to suggest that just because Kyle is “fat” he isn’t allowed to comment on other people’s weight. Talk about fat-shaming.
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The difference between Kyle and Jackie O’s weight is that Kyle is happy the way he is. He doesn’t want to lose weight. But Jackie does.
Jackie O joined the so-called “Fat Club” at work whereby she and fellow staff members would compete to lose the most amount of weight. Each subjects themselves to a public weigh in which is then charted for all to see.
She has chosen to do it publicly on her radio show, which means her co-host gets to comment on it, her father who called in and she put to air can comment on it, listeners can comment on it and everyone else who comes across stories about it get to comment on it.