As I sat poolside watching my eldest daughter have her swimming lesson, my youngest daughter Milla decided it was affection o’clock and proceeded to cover me in kisses. Well, technically she just kissed me on my lips albeit about five times in a row. For me, personally, I love when she does this, when her mind decides it is time to show mum some love without me even asking. I truly treasure it because I do not know how long it will last and simply put, it makes me happy.
It appears though not everyone feels the same way.
Just this week, David Beckham was criticised for posting a photo of him kissing his seven-year-old daughter Harper.
In the comments, many followers shared their disapproval, with some even calling the kiss “creepy”.
“How can you kiss this little girl on her lips,” one follower commented.
Although it wasn’t on the same level, I’ve experienced this outrage before too.
Once, when Milla kissed me and then moved on to share her kisses with my husband sitting next to me, I glanced around and noticed a woman sitting further down the bench seat looking at me, with what only can be described as a ‘disgusted’ expression on her face. It was as if me, a mother, kissing my four-year-old daughter on the lips made me some sort of criminal.
I do not know what her issue was with it - was it the kiss on the lips itself? The fact that it was more than one? Or the fact that we weren’t somewhere private? Whatever the answer, it doesn’t really matter because I really just don’t understand.
How can kissing your own child on the lips be an issue?
The irony in this situation is that I am normally not an affectionate person. In fact, I’d say I am the opposite of affectionate. The only real exception are my two girls who seem to override my affection filter. A consequence of having this filter though makes me very aware of affection happening around me and often I find myself, like the woman that sat next to me, with an appalled expression as a couple are over the top with their PDAs. However, I can’t say I have ever felt this way about a parent and a child sharing a few pecks on the lips.
Gisele Bündchen's husband, Tom Brady, also kisses his son on the lips.
Before I had a chance to look away from the judgement being shot from her eye daggers, the woman then chose to do something that just left me literally with my mouth gaping open. She shook her head. This time in response to my daughter kissing her dad. Yep, apparently my four year old kissing her own father who she loves is not OK.