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Last week my wife and I celebrated 16 years of marriage. Lots of people gave us “Happy Anniversary” wishes and left comments on our Facebook pages. Between the two of us we amassed nearly 200 likes on each of our status updates combined.
It was a good day spent with our family. As I thought about it later that evening, I reflected back on our anniversary day a few years ago. That day was not good… at all! We were both busy. And we were both stressed. I was working to complete some big tasks at work and she had phone calls to return.
I remember that we were irritated with one another and even snapped at each other a few times throughout the day. We collapsed into bed around midnight that night, and, within minutes, were both sound asleep. So much for a blissful, romantic anniversary right?
However, that’s real life. That’s reality. Often, we try to keep the magic of our dating years alive throughout our marriage, all the while missing a very important growth element that must happen. Your wedding day is a day to be celebrated. Your marriage in the years to follow is the true investment.
Speaking of investment, I didn’t marry my best friend 16 years ago. We weren’t deeply, blissfully in love on that special day either. That may catch you by surprise and you may be wondering what in the world that has to do with investment.
I’m not a believer in love at first sight. And I don’t get too warm and fuzzy when I see Facebook statuses on people’s anniversaries that say something to the effect of, “So and so many years ago I married my best friend, the love of my life, the rock on which I stand, the wind beneath my wings (this is sounding like a Bette Midler song)!”
I’m not saying any of this is wrong. It’s okay to post these kinds of things on Facebook or Twitter. And if you feel as though you experienced love at first sight, or you did marry your best friend many years ago, that’s perfectly okay.
I’m not being cynical, I’m being honest with you. Sixteen years ago, I did not marry my best friend and when we first met it was not love at first sight. (Post continues after gallery.)
Today, 16 years later, I am married to my best friend. Back then, I wasn’t. Today, I do have a deep love and respect for this woman I’ve spent all these years with. Back then, I did not. Why? you ask. Because I didn’t really know her all those years ago. On our wedding day, we had only known each other for a total of 16 months. That’s not very long!