We chose a gender neutral name.
We did not announce the sex of our baby, not before she was born and not after.
We requested gender neutral clothing and decorated her nursery in gender neutral colors.
It was important to me that my child decide her likes and dislikes — particularly around her gender presentation — for herself.
By the time she was 10 months old, she was already letting her preferences be known, always picking the feminine outfit when given a choice. And so, we dressed her in the pink and the flowers, because she picked them out. Soon, she was pulling anything with sequins and tulle off the racks at the store.
Then, when she was 1, her godmother gave her a plastic cup with the characters from Frozen on it. She’d never seen the movie, but I told her the names of Elsa, Anna, and Olaf, who were all on the cup. She loved the cup. Carried it everywhere with her. Slept with it in her crib. “Elsa!” she’d shriek.
When we went to the store, she recognized the characters on the shirts and toys, because of her cup. All princesses became “Elsa.”
And she wanted them all.
Over the course of the last year, she’s only become more princess-focused. She owns several princess costumes, which she wears almost every day, requesting them the minute she wakes up. She has socks with Frozen characters on them, and she asks for them and only them. She has a crown. She wears bows in her hair by request and will only wear her “pink shoes.”