Renae Coleman was really looking forward to giving birth to her first child. She’d been with her sister when her sister had a “beautiful” water birth.
“She walked away with a wonderful experience, which is important, and a healthy baby,” Coleman remembers.
But the birth of Coleman’s first child didn’t go the way she’d planned.
“My first one was a failed induction because they thought that the baby had to come out a bit early, at 36 weeks,” she tells Mamamia.
“My body wasn’t ready and I didn’t respond to what they were trying to do, so they had to give me a caesarean for that. I didn’t really understand at the time. I was only 23.
“I never got to experience something that I’d really planned for, emotionally and physically.”
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Coleman wanted to have a VBAC (vaginal birth after caesarean) for her second child, but that didn’t happen.
“I was told that he would be too big, right at the end. That ‘Do you risk your baby to get something you want?’ card was dealt in front of me. Obviously you think at the time, ‘Oh, I don’t want to be selfish, and I want a healthy baby.’ But I think he probably would have birthed fine.”
Her third child was born in the same way as her first two.
“They said they wouldn’t do a VBAC after two caesareans.”
Coleman had been working as a preschool teacher. But after her three caesareans, she began training for a new career as a midwife.
“I didn’t feel supported and I didn’t feel like I had any of the birthing experiences that I wanted,” she remembers. “But after reflecting on those experiences, I knew that there was another way for it all.”