She’s made all the mistakes, so you don’t have to… Ask Erin is a weekly advice column, in which Erin answers your burning questions about anything at all.
My partner and I have been living together for four years. We come from a past of cheating on our failed marriages with each other. We have promised each other that we will not cheat on each other because we both felt that it was wrong for us to do that in the beginning, we are both grown ups, and if we are unhappy, then we would split up before being unfaithful.
That being said, he is extremely flirtatious and extroverted, whereas I’m introverted and keep to myself. I am also extremely sexually attracted to my partner, and he likes to talk the talk but never has an interest in sex with me. He always has an excuse and sometimes when we’ve been flirting a lot (me hoping to score), he’ll tell me that he took care of his needs himself.
I’m always left hot and bothered and left to take care of myself. He tells me how much he loves me and how attracted he is to me and how he loves to go down on me, but he just never wants to be physical with me. I’m always wondering if there’s someone else because I don’t seem to be a priority to him.
I love him very much, but I also need to be physically satisfied more than 2-4 times per month. I know it sounds petty, but it seems he has all the time in the world for all the ladies in his social media rather than with me. He is constantly on his phone, whether it’s Facebook or someone is calling or texting him. If his phone goes off when we are making out, he loses his erection and can’t finish. I’m so horny and lonely, and I have spoken to him about this, and he just blames his antidepressant and reminds me that he’s approaching 50.
He also spends A LOT of time online checking out women. He used to have a porn addiction when we first started living together, and we had sex even less frequently then.
I don’t understand, don’t most men want a woman who is always hot for them? I have no intentions of looking outside of my relationship, but I’m just wondering is there something wrong with him or me?
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