Have you ever found yourself thinking – truly, whole-heartedly thinking, ‘I’m going to be single forever’?
In a thread on Quora, users delved into the lightbulb moments they realised they would permanently be single; that they would stop chasing the elusive, and sometimes painfully non-existent, “one”.
Here’s what they had to say.
‘People say “I can handle it”, but they can’t.’
We don’t think much of it, but allergies can drive a wedge in the dating world.
“I have a lot of allergies. By a lot, I mean I can’t eat or be exposed to most fruit, vegetables, grains or poultry,” one woman wrote. “A couple of pieces of chopped onion sitting on the counter can make me violently ill for days. Dust is a problem, scents, pollens etc.”
Sadly, the woman believes her restricted lifestyle is one that people can’t handle, even if they insist they can.
“I don’t see ever having any sort of relationship. People may say, “I can handle it” but after a few months – they discover they really can’t, and the hostility and resentment arrives. No thanks.”
‘Rejection is too much.’
Everyone has a fear of rejection. No one wants to put their heart on the line and have it crushed by a potential partner-to-be. But there’s fear of rejection and then there’s what user Lee is hindered by: not possessing the mental fortitude to overcome it.
“I quickly came to the conclusion that dating was essentially impossible for me,” Lee explained.
“When I realised I was much deeper than the vast majority of people, I lost interest. If a woman doesn’t affect my very core being and make me want to dig deeper into the infinite world of wisdom, I have no interest.”