Hugh Jackman may have just found the secret to a long-lasting marriage. Surprisingly, it’s got nothing to do with roses and romance.
Speaking to PEOPLE Magazine at the National Night of Laughter and Song event in Washington DC on Monday night, the beloved Wolverine and Boy from Oz performer attributed his happy marriage with Deborra-Lee Furness to a slightly unorthodox activity.
"Meditation!" he said. Not chocolates, spooning, or communication, but becoming one with your most Zen self.
Deborra-Lee agreed, adding: "We meditate together... sometimes we have friends over to do it, too."
Considering the couple have been married for 21 years after meeting in the set of Corelli in 1995, they must be onto something. (Check out the video up top for all their best moments!)
In honour of the milestone, which took place in April 2017, Jackman posted a tribute to Instagram captioned: "To the love of my life. 21 glorious years. I love you with all my heart."
What's your secret to maintaining your marriage? Would you try couple meditation?
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He's absolutely right about meditation.
I've been doing it (mostly my version ) since I was 4yrs old.
I used to get horrible migraines and of course paracetamol didn't work (although there was a now recognised benefit to taking asprin ).........anyway, I'd discovered that "putting myself into a place where the pain wasn't " gave some relief.
For years up until about 10yrs ago when they finally went, I used creative visualisation and meditation to assist with managing this excruciating pain.
I also took Imigrain & Maxalon.
Getting back to meditation, my husband & I have our own methods which work for us.
We've had an extremely stressful working life so regular meditation provides some respite.
It also helps to get some perspective on your priorities and your life.................and of course it increases something truly important - gratitude.
I've only been married for 6 months but we have been together for nearly 7 years and what works for us is an oldie but a goodie, communication. So many of the issues my friends seem have had is over someone not communicating openly and honestly.
My husband and I don't just talk about stuff, we also talk about our feelings about stuff. And not just big stuff, the little things that could become issues. Case in point - housework.
When we first lived together I was getting annoyed because I felt he wasn't doing his share of housework. So I told him that it made me feel like we weren't equal. He replied that I need to tell him what to do. I explained that it makes me feel like I'm nagging but he explained that he honestly doesn't see the stuff I do, and that he doesn't feel nagged he wanted to be directed. So now I just tell him when the vacuuming needs to be done, the rubbish needs to go out etc. What could have built up to be resentment, was sorted through a bit of open communication where we each explained what we needed.
Oh and we like to tell each other how good the other person is looking and kiss each other very regularly. Making sure your partner knows you think they are hot is important stuff.
Completely agree :)
"So now I just tell him when the vacuuming needs to be done, the rubbish needs to go out etc." for sure he isn't very happy being told what to do [I am sure that he isn't as happy as you think that he was].
We are much the same, my husband and I. We dont let things get pent up or bigger than they should be, which seems to happen to a lot of my friends. They let things go when they are just little and suddenly its some big argument or problem. I just make it a point to tell my husband each time I feel a niggle to. We have discussed it as I tell him I dont want him to feel like I am endlessly picking on him or nagging him, but we discussed it so he knows that isnt what's happening. I ask him to do the same, I want him to tell me when he feels Im not pulling my weight, and he has done so before. Its not the best feeling ever, but Id rather him let me know than get actually mad or upset over something stupid!
I just read him your comment and he laughed and said that he appreciates me letting him know because he really doesn't notice and wants to help. And then he kissed me to reiterate the point!
Some people really can communicate exactly what they want and feel.