When the story came out earlier this week that a Geelong school had banned hugging, my husband posted it on my Facebook page.
“Our daughter would have been expelled if her school banned hugging,” he pointed out.
He wasn’t wrong. The kids at my daughter’s school hug a lot. It really surprised me when she started there, and I first saw her with her friends in the schoolyard. They would greet each other with a hug in the morning, and say goodbye with a hug in the afternoon. Not a quick one, either. A big, warm hug.
Now my son has started at the same school, and again, I’m noticing a lot of physical affection. I dropped him off the other morning and a little girl from his class grabbed his hand and ran off with him. I’ve seen some of his other friends, who are boys, also holding his hand or putting their arms around him.
Because my son and daughter go to a school where most of the kids are from non-English-speaking backgrounds, I feel like I’m watching an ad for world peace. Or for an expensive clothing company.
Honestly, it melts my heart.
"Honestly, it melts my heart." Image via istock
The story about the hugging ban at St Patrick's Primary School said students were being instructed in other ways to show affection, including "a particular knuckle handshake where they clunk knuckles".
"In this current day and age we are really conscious about protecting kids and teaching them from a young age that you have to be cautious,” school principal John Grant told the Herald Sun.
I couldn't agree more that kids need to be protected. But they don't need to be protected from friends' hugs. It's really important to teach them that some forms of touching are good, while others (obviously, an adult touching them on their genitals) are bad.
Hugs are special. Who hasn't been comforted by a friend's hug when feeling down? Who hasn't been able to let go of a lingering resentment when someone has offered to hug it out? Who hasn't longed for that moment when a partner or child returns from a trip, runs up, throws their arms around your neck and hugs you tight?