Plenty of women can’t wait to become grandmothers. Not this mum.
When her daughter said she and her partner wanted to start trying for a baby, this British woman wasn’t happy. She felt her daughter was too young. Her age? “Just 23.”
The woman, calling herself Fab40nhy, turned to online mothers’ forum Mumsnet for advice.
“I know that plenty of people have children far earlier,” she wrote, “but I feel that this is often not by choice. My daughter is knowingly plunging into a huge commitment without fully understanding the tremendous impact this baby will have on her life (loss of independence, financial implications, strain on relationship etc).”
The woman explains that her daughter’s partner is 32. They have been together for three years, both have good jobs and they’ve just bought a home together.
“I acknowledge that technically they have the means to afford and care for a baby but I just feel disappointed at the prospect that they will not be able to enjoy these exciting times together without the potential burden of a newborn baby so very soon when there is so much left in her life to experience and enjoy.”
The woman’s question was this: “How can I warn her she’s too young without being unreasonable?”
Most of the people who replied had the same answer.
“For goodness sake,” wrote one. “Mind your own business.”
“She has a job, a house and is 23, not 13,” posted a second. “Keep your nose out.”
But there were others who agreed they would also be unhappy if they were in the same situation.
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