As we mature, we begin internalising the importance of the quality of our friendships vs. the quantity; the meaningfulness of the interactions we create with those we love are what truly make our friendships worth maintaining and growing.
There are a few things I personally do to make sure I keep these very special people in my life, in a way that is fun, fulfilling and doesn’t strain anyone’s busy schedule and other priorities. Whether you’re trying to rekindle an old friendship or build a stronger one, try these tips and see what comes of it.
1. Write a letter, even if that person is close enough to visit.
I enjoy expressing my creative side, adding stickers and fun colours and even an old picture of us in the letters I write to my friends. People get excited about receiving letters in the mail, especially when it’s from people they love (and especially when they’re not bills!).
Emails and texts can be impersonal, while hand-written letters reflects your effort and more importantly, they are WORTH your thoughts. Send one a month! Your friends will be so ecstatic. By the way, these tips also apply to family members you may not get to see often!
2. Look at their face.
Skype, Facetime or Google Hangout with them. It’s obviously not as awesome as seeing them in person, but technology is pretty infinite, and you should take advantage of it.
It’s so nice to Skype my best friend in New York and watch her son as he grows older and plays. I would never be able to see that in person as I do over Facetime only because of the distance. Texts and call are great, but being able to match that voice you love so much to a face is priceless.
3. Plan a trip.
This may sound obvious, but how often do you actually have a trip in the works? It doesn’t have to be a long one or an expensive one for that matter. It could be a girl’s weekend or even a “meet halfway” day trip.
Think about how often you see this person now, and try and double it over the coming year. Family, work and social lives can really keep a schedule full but these people are worth it and you know it. (Post continues after gallery.)
4. Create a visual reminder of your friendship with that person.
I personally enjoy keeping a scrapbook, and while you don’t have to get super fancy (I get pretty wild with a hot glue gun and stamps), a simple album of your memories together is so comforting to flip through. It can serve as such a beautiful reminder of your history with that person.